Reality Check
No photos to go with tonight's entry, but maybe that's for the best. My husband was the one to suggest that I blog about what happened at a neighbor's birthday party tonight. I was hesitant, because these are not the proudest moments of parenting, but it is part of the journey. And since we want to be true to the whole experience of being first-time parents, so here goes...
Our son was a bully tonight. Hard to believe, right? It was for me. There was a boy at the party who was the same age and size as our son, and our son pushed him down 4 times during the evening. This is in spite of our close monitoring and removing him from the area several times. I was beside myself with embarrassment. We didn't know this family, and for sure they were thinking, "What kind of parents are they?? Letting their child push other kids around?"
Why did MY sweet, good-natured kid do this? It was like he sought him out, just so he could push him down. Where did this mean streak come from? Part of me wanted to think that he was just trying to play with or befriend this boy, but didn't know how. My husband is convinced that he was well aware of his actions. Who knows? All I know is that I have no idea how to teach my child that it is not OK to knock other kids over. He is not even 15 mos. old yet. Is he too young to spank? Most experts say yes. But I am horrified to think that I will have the kid that doesn't obey or behave.
In conclusion this has all been a big reality check and reminder that parenting is really just hanging on by the skin of our teeth.
Our son was a bully tonight. Hard to believe, right? It was for me. There was a boy at the party who was the same age and size as our son, and our son pushed him down 4 times during the evening. This is in spite of our close monitoring and removing him from the area several times. I was beside myself with embarrassment. We didn't know this family, and for sure they were thinking, "What kind of parents are they?? Letting their child push other kids around?"
Why did MY sweet, good-natured kid do this? It was like he sought him out, just so he could push him down. Where did this mean streak come from? Part of me wanted to think that he was just trying to play with or befriend this boy, but didn't know how. My husband is convinced that he was well aware of his actions. Who knows? All I know is that I have no idea how to teach my child that it is not OK to knock other kids over. He is not even 15 mos. old yet. Is he too young to spank? Most experts say yes. But I am horrified to think that I will have the kid that doesn't obey or behave.
In conclusion this has all been a big reality check and reminder that parenting is really just hanging on by the skin of our teeth.
Comments
Thanks for posting that incident. I always enjoy reading the CoHeirs because it's like a reality show that I learn from, not to mention entertaining. He's definitely growing up to be like us..knowing good n evil, doing good n evil. But, No matter how he looks or acts, he's still our "Lil Jackson". Thanks again.
CoHeir Fan from da O.C.